“Only when we are responsive to the moment instead of driven by our agenda can we meet our children where they need to be met. When we connect effectively, there’s no drama. We deal with issues for what they are. This maintains the connection that’s the foundation of a child’s healthy development.”
- Shefali Tsabary, PhD, Out of Control: Why Disciplining Your Child Doesn’t Work and What Will
Out of Control
Why disciplining your child doesn’t work…and what will.
SHEFALI TSABARY, PhD
Touted as the solution to bad behavior, discipline has in fact been a major cause of children's dysfunction for generations. Now learn what really works!
Every parent wants the golden key to raising well-behaved, academically gifted, successful, happy children. Embedded in our collective psyche is the notion that discipline is the cornerstone to achieving these goals. Out of Control—Why Discipline Doesn’t Work and What Will challenges this notion, offering a never-before-published perspective on why the entire premise of discipline is flawed.
Dr. Shefali Tsabary shows that the very idea of disciplining children has in fact been a major cause of generations of dysfunction. This book goes to the heart of the problems we have with our children, not only questioning our dependence on discipline but daring us to let go of our fears for our children, replacing them with an approach that draws parent and child together instead of alienating them.
The key to raising a terrific child is an ongoing meaningful connection between parent and child, free of head games such as threats, deprivation, punishment, and timeouts—all of which are forms of manipulation. In Out of Control, we discover the reasons for a particular behavior and how to bring out the best in a child.
“Dr. Shefali offers an enlightened path to empower our children to become who they are meant to be. This book transforms our understanding of control and discipline and inspires us to evolve towards wisdom.”
“A powerful book to help families transform their relationships forever. This book goes straight to the heart of the
problems we share with our children and gives us a clear path to turn them into powerful lessons.”
Shefali Tsabary, PhD
Dr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including The Conscious Parent.
Dr. Shefali was recently a guest on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday and Lifeclass television programs. In her introduction of the author and this book, Oprah stated that she has not been as excited about a book's philosophy as she is about this one since Eckhart Tolle's A New Earth.
“My child isn’t my easel to paint on Nor my diamond to polish My child isn’t my trophy to share with the world Nor my badge of honor My child isn’t an idea, an expectation, or a fantasy Nor my reflection or legacy My child isn’t my puppet or a project Nor my striving or desire My child is here to fumble, stumble, try, and cry Learn and mess up Fail and try again Listen to the beat of a drum faint to our adult ears And dance to a song that revels in freedom My task is to step aside Stay in infinite possibility Heal my own wounds Fill my own bucket And let my child fly.”
